“Overadecadeafteritspublication,onebookondatinghaspeoplefirmlyinitsgrip.“--TheNewYorkTimesWealreadyrelyonsciencetotelluswhattoeat,whentoexercise,andhowlongtosleep.Whynotusesciencetohelpusimproveourrelationships?Inthisrevolutionarybook,psychiatristandneuroscientistDr.AmirLevineandRachelHellerscientificallyexplainwhysomepeopleseemtonavigaterelationshipseffortlessly,whileothersstruggle.Discoverhowanunderstandingofadultattachment--themostadvancedrelationshipscienceinexistencetoday--canhelpusfindandsustainlove.PioneeredbypsychologistJohnBowlbyinthe1950s,thefieldofattachmentpositsthateachofusbehavesinrelationshipsinoneofthreedistinctways:-Anxiouspeopleareoftenpreoccupiedwiththeirrelationshipsandtendtoworryabouttheirpartner’sabilitytolovethemback.-Avoidantpeopleequateintimacywithalossofindependenceandconstantlytrytominimizecloseness.-Securepeoplefeelcomfortablewithintimacyandareusuallywarmandloving.Attachedguidesreadersindeterminingwhatattachmentstyletheyandtheirmate(orpotentialmate)follow,offeringaroadmapforbuildingstronger,morefulfillingconnectionswiththepeopletheylove.
